Study kills '1 in 10' myth of cuckolded fathers Study shows it is 1 in 25
1.6M Men Pay Child Support
For Kids That Aren't
From Dr. Charles E. Corry
I've had a friend that I worked with who underwent horrors of family court. Divorce court went about his case by a template above. Children involved were his children and he got them back after couple years, but family court didn't stop garnishing his child support money from his paycheck for a long time after children already were in his custody. I bet family court was doing this "in the interest of children".
I was fortunate that after seeing divorce and custody horrors of few of my friends I insisted to not loose communication with my X-to be and personally negotiated mutual agreement, so the divorce cost us $150.00, and our property didn't go to lawyers. Since we decided that I will have custody of our child, I kept a house. Divorce is always devastating financially, but we managed to save what we have together with our child in mind instead loosing it in court fights.
I have to admit that a reason that it all went this fortunate way is only that thanks to a very ethical lady lawyer from Farmington, MI. She charged me $200 for one hour consultation. During that time she told me how scenario of family courts in Michigan looks like. She also told me that she is good in her trade and she will win custody case for me, but she will destroy my opponent (ex-wife) to the point that she will never talk to me and in a future my daughter will hate me for it. It would cost me a house and probably a sizable debt. She advised me that if I want to have a relationship with my daughter than I shouldn't do it. She advised me to humble myself and with my ex-wife peacefully solve our relationship and custody problem if we care for our kid. I honestly told my ex all I heard during consultation and eventually we resolved our situation without lawyers, costs and horrors.
Today I know that while infidelity is a sign of insecurity and immaturity regardless of age, divorces in court battles are just prove of this. Unfortunately system is geared for plunder on already hurting victims. Those battles leave ruin in at least one victim lasting for decades and emotional injuries beyond repair. There is also a deep sense of injustice and disillusion about our court system. It takes only one predatory lawyer ill advising vulnerable client to destroy a family. After all battle dust settles kids still need parents even after they don't live together anymore.
We use lawyers because we've been conditioned not to solve problems but to run away from them. Everybody has glitches in life but instead analyzing them and fixing people tend to look for some instant gratification. So there are infidelities, excesses in gambling, eating, shopping ... Isn't this what media is constantly pushing on us? - but this is another can of worms.
I think that Marriage is something of the pass, so having one single man and woman relationship ....Love is almost dead...most people just want to have sex, but not love. I think that in the future only gay people will be the ones getting marry....I also think that most people will avoid having kids or will not be able to have them because of infertility.... I move about a year ago to the island of Puerto Rico...this beautiful island have become one of the most hostile and violent places in the world with an average of a 1000 Murders or more a year....statics down here show that 1 in 3 women have been sexually abuse as a child or during her youth years...63 out of a 100 kids, come from parents that never been marry..of those , about 45 out of 63 don't know their father or mother or both...this island have become a bastard society ..mix that with a corrupted and very mediocre government, and add to that the poverty, 1 out of two Portorricans don't work or can't find a job...and add to that also the drugs problem....and there you have it...a violent society of bastards people murdering each other for whatever reason...the other day one guy kill another one with a gun for some basketball play ...that's how fuck up things are around here ! sad but true !
its a whore-ish world we live in
sad thing is, if you really connect with your mate, its not hard to be faithful