You are involved with a lady you love but after the first couple of years of shifting signals and rapid mood swings, the two of you have always been able to make up with some hot romance in the bedroom. That works for a while, but the ugly head of that monster tends to emerge again and again. Sometimes the hurt you feel even makes you question the validity of the relationship itself. Is this really normal you ask? Is this what can be expected from the female neurological response of her brain, the sum of her experiences, and the damage that was done before you ever met her? Since you have abandoned friends and family with her taking up most of your time you have little chance to get any feedback from those you know and trust.

How are you viewed?

Her family does little more than regard you as the present man who happens to be in her life, and that should have been a danger signal. It's enough that you wonder why her mood shifts so quickly from normal or even happy to sudden rage over practically nothing. But, being Mister Good Guy you trusted everything that came out of her mouth as the God's truth. Big mistake! Yet, you've been indoctrinated with old repetitive bromides that "love conquers all," how noble! Little did you know even after a number of failed relationships you have partaken in that this is a very unrealistic yet romantic notion based upon younger physical attraction, but not reality! This, in so many ways, characterizes our society full of false promises and unrealistic expectations. Yet, for the goodness of our hearts, we move on through the fog of misleading narratives.

Out of control

Another error you made in your appraisal about a serious relationship you entered into with little inquiry or analysis, because who cares to analyze who cares to investigate, for Christ's sake it's love, right? No, Dude it's endorphins, it's pheromones, all the natural components that are natural highs just as intoxicating as the narcotics that ruin people's lives, only you're doing it over infatuation and the fatal belief in physical attraction you've misinterpreted for love! So is she, but there's a difference for women because they think differently than men. A woman by nature is short sided, child-like, and too emotional to make important decisions, but when she does she can ruin her life over leaving a good man just to take up with a loser! And she will do this time after time after time!

The rapidly diminishing chances

For most people in society who have reacted to events in their lives rather than try to control them by properly educating themselves or learning from good mentors, and searching for spiritual balance through God's lessons. Instead, they wish for the magic of material possessions, the sexual attraction of the female body, and the nirvana of attaining just a piece of that dream as a true meaningful life slips away. Youth, is the only time a man can afford the luxury of foolishness in his life, but failures and repeat episodes quickly erode the time consumed by the illusion and soon he is faced with the summation of his errors and many of those errors that ate up his best years were consumed in relationships that took their toll.

Repeating the same mistake over and over again

With marriages in the west at slightly more than a 50% failure rate and many people experiencing two, three, or even more divorces it seems people never learn their lesson. Something is inherently wrong! Now you are committed to this troublesome relationship you're in and you have invested heavily in it with emotions, trust, material possessions, and finances. Why, you were assured all along by her that this was the final relationship to end all relationships, right? I mean, her word is the gospel truth, right? So, you hung on every word being that you're the one with honorable intentions in this relationship, you don't have any ulterior motives, right? You just want things to work out, to make sense, to end up happily ever after! But, you forgot something Bud. You're dealing with a woman! A mass of conflicting impulses and pressing emotions! A creature that needs immediate gratification and no excuses because the world is the world, and you are supposed to have all the answers like RIGHT NOW! And you are never allowed to make an honest mistake because if you do, you are in for a tongue lashing, insults, and sexual starvation, at the very least!

Deadly conclusion too late

But, in all this twisting of darkened corridors running through her contradictory mind is a consideration you never thought you would have to take responsibility for. And you should have, but it really didn't make any sense because she told you that she was done hurting others and going through the needless suffering of another relationship! But, she did it anyway! And the dangerous signal you ignored was her increasing indifference to you! It began gradually and began to gain momentum as you grumbled over the way you were being treated! Her ambivalence to you was becoming obvious and you didn't pick up on it! Among friends she would pick their opinion over yours, She would automatically ignore or dismiss your opinions about music, movies, or even food! Things the two of you used to enjoy together she strangely pulled away from. And, you were left holding the bag! Now, as you will soon hear someday when you find out, She will tell you.

The final tearful chapter

It could have been any man. Not just the one she picked who bought into her line of fallacies and rationalized victimization! She will make you feel even worse by doing this. By further demeaning you as a man, as a human being, as any living thing in her life that would deserve respect! Even a puppy! You will be told that since you failed to give her everything she wanted when she wanted it not only was it your fault but any man could have satisfied her requiem for a rebound, for a stepping stone, for a quick and easy route out of her predicament with you! One more thing. Did she ever admit to you that this was how she planned exiting other relationships before you? If she did, you just committed cardinal sin Number 101! The evidence was before you and you ignored Exhibit A! You see, in the very beginning of a relationship women want to tell you about their true selves but are consciously afraid they will drive you away with the truth so they inform you unconsciously! And, you're expected to decode the enigma on your own. Because in the end my friend, all of this will have been your fault! In the end she will never take responsibility for her own actions. Know this!