Let me preface this article by saying that I believe in the institution of marriage, but in today’s politically correct climate I doubt that commitment will ever be in the dialogue of what was once intended to be lifelong union. This, not to say that the fault of the high divorce rate can be attributed solely to women and that men are not at fault; I will say that the prospects for men at this juncture do not look good. That women have the upper hand and most of the advantageous options both legally and socially would be an understatement!

The toxic formula

In the last 5 decades feminism and the self-centered urging of pop culture have created the perfect environment for the flesh eating virus we know today as divorce, the gender battle, and the general social rationale that accompanies a society in the west where values and morality pale in comparison to practicality and furthering oneself through quick and meaningless relationships that are easily severed. The unrealized and undiagnosed accumulation of emotional damage in the realm of disposable partners and expendable relationships has not been explored enough by psychologists. In the aftermath of the emotional damage done by such aspects as trust, intimacy, and long term sustainability in second and even third marriages are widespread and largely overlooked.

Odds against

Yet, we have a new generation of millennials who may be a bit more conservative toward the rapid changing of partners as opposed to the “Baby Boomers” who began the sexual revolution of the sixties only unable to resolve the conflicts and the hypocrisy that sexual freedom breeds not to mention the casualties that were created. The broken homes, the latch key children, and emotionally scarred kids that will grow up to perhaps create more victims due to the dysfunction they learned as a result of growing up in a divorced family. The Millennial of the present must somehow make sense of the train wreck of broken relationships whose consequences span generations of families that have been extended and extended with little in positive impact. The army of inept and opportunistic marriage counselors adds even more depth to the personal tragedies of men and women.

Rights? Whose rights?

Let’s focus on the massive hypocrisy of Feminism and the general aphorism that women are the largest percentage of the victims in the question of marriage and divorce. This is no longer the age of the helpless abandoned mother who is at the mercy of the marauding, womanizing man who has all the options and few downsides. No longer are women dependent on the man as the breadwinner nor are they the once committed mother they once were either. Now, many women who have worked hard at competing for power with men at the workplace can always lay back on the trump card in their hand that if the marriage doesn’t work they always have the fulfillment of their career they can lean on?

Garbage in garbage out

With magazines like “Cosmopolitan” featuring front page articles such as “Now a Woman Can Have a Man at the Office and a Man at Home!” let that sink in for a moment. At one time in our society such a thing would have been looked upon as immoral and disgusting. Now, it seems a reward for any women up for the challenge! Pop culture has managed to put even more rats in the skull of those juggling a family, a career, and the future of the relationship! Are the prospects of having a lifetime partner so egregious that infidelity, divorce, and losing half of one’s community property really worth the alternative, much less the emotional pain suffered by the children? The statistics apparently reflect a generation of those who cannot resist the temptation of risking everything for the thrill of an office romance just for the sheer self-esteem of it all. Whereas many psychologists have stressed the damage to morale of the office staff, the threat to marriage, and the lost productivity to the employer with many companies forbidding employees being romantically involved with one another still the foolishness goes on. Workmates often form powerful bonds at the job that often eclipse the importance of the marriage in the mind of those who have strayed or are considering it.

Untrustworthy

We already know just how corruptible human nature is. The left thinks that people are basically good, but anyone with experience in the real world would know better, and the left merely uses that assumption for political purpose anyway. Human nature, at best, is opportunistic. Leonard Cohen, famous song writer, once wrote, “I will kill you if I can and I will help you if I must.” This statement generally characterizes the frailty of human nature.

Chances of victory slim

So, how is it for the guy? How does a single or divorced male cope in the present day society where the sanctity of marriage has been basically sent to the bone yard for later retrieval by forensic investigators? His prospects are not good. Thanks to the abundance of divorce ravaged families and the unconscious emulation of bad behavior by the collateral victims injustice tends to perpetuate itself. Does this really seem to be a fatalistic conclusion to you? Try cruising the bars for companionship after losing a girl friend or being divorced. They say if you can’t take rejection you won’t be successful. Well, unless you look like Brad Pitt or a young Robert Redford, get ready for rejection. Unless, you drive an exceedingly pricey European sports car or a luxury sedan get ready for either cruel or thoughtful let downs, but not acceptance. Besides, you wouldn’t want a no good gold digger anyway. Would you?

Same species different brains!

It has been proven in many medical studies that men and women think completely differently and even use opposite hemispheres of the brain to solve the same problem according to MRI scans. That the two sexes can even communicate at all seems more of a miracle than an everyday occurrence. We now have authors who have attempted to translate the intentions of two adults, male and female, in a marriage simply conveying thoughts between each other that can be completely misunderstood by the female who must have an unreasonable amount of reassurance in order to realize that the male is trying to help by solving her problem, but women feel, they do not analyze well, they are not good logicians, it is not in feminine nature. They must have their feelings considered, instead the man must express compassion by showing her he cares. Solving the problem for her just isn’t good enough!

Born opportunists

Speaking of female nature, which Feminists will proclaim is superior to that of men, particularly in relationships, consider that many women in modern day society single or married maintain a string of male friends especially if they are attractive. Sure, we can fault men for being superficial enough to be impressed by her physicality and sexual viability, but how about that feminine opportunism? Nothing like dating a couple or three men at the same time and even having sex separately with all three whenever the chance presents itself as women are good at juggling complex interpersonal relationships, or should I say, opportunities.

Reusable rhetoric

Does the constant bombardment of Hollywood romance movies help? Personally speaking, I do not think I’ve ever known a beauty in her prime that did not practice this kind of personal conduct. Either the stupidity of a comic set of situations followed by the unintended affair or the original target of the romance becoming deflected happens on the road to a happy ending seems to surface like a submarine through thin ice! Once again, the submittal of a movie plot to the assumed ninth grade comprehension level of the audience in general seems to illustrate why the redundant formulaic approach of Hollywood remains decades old like a corpse in a family vault! Have we been programmed by the massive onslaught of entertainment to actually fail in marriages? It would seem so if not by intent certainly by chance.

Two distinct messages

It’s almost funny how the supposed victim between the two sexes (women) seem to have the upper hand. The law favors them, PC favors them, and modern culture sure does! Perhaps, as little girls women feel programmed to achieve status of a goddess in order to be envied and appreciated, but then again doesn’t that go back to vanity and egos? Men, get a much different message from society growing up. He’s supposed to have all the answers, virility, and the economic where with all to measure up and attract a mate, but for what? Today, attract a mate and face the internal mentality of the modern pampered, victimized woman? Remember, all is fair in love and war, she must have what she wants because the goddess deserves it! Sounds almost like a racial victimization narrative for illegal aliens,
doesn’t it?

Instinctive

Even women who are just this side of homely seem to have the option of greater partner multiplicity. They seem to learn at an early age to manage their opportunities with one entanglement while another prospect is kept waiting in the wings, on a string, just another iron in the fire! For a man today, that attractive blonde, the bewitching redhead, or the seductive brunette may become easily his worst liability in life when he’s with a woman who has learned how to use her sexuality as leverage in order to get whatever she wants! The scheming shrew who can have any man she desires if he is willing to accept the consequences! It’s not so bad for the cunning womanizer who manipulates women well to his advantage, all be it, at his own risk, but for the man with good intentions, Mister Nice Guy, this can be a devastating defeat that can be a life changing event and a prelude to isolation and self-doubt!

Obsolete sperm donor?

Casualties occur not only in battle but in the war between the sexes as Hollywood and the entertainment industry has ignited to sell hard copy, tickets to the movies, or to drive consumerism. Everything from Barbie Dolls to designer jeans, to make-up, the excesses of vanity in order to get what she wants claw at her cosmetic drawer! To Feminists, women should seek independence safe from emotional entanglements with men, keep their own property, and consider child rearing an independent project, reducing the man’s role to a sperm donor! And that prospect may now be obsolete now that a medical lab has produced male and female DNA in the same petri dish for artificial insemination and thus relieving the man hater of the indignity of relying upon male participation. Now, out of the same egg of a singular woman, gene splicing has achieved yet another new, dehumanizing, record!