From the time we are born we are bombarded with phrases and truisms that are not only false but misleading. It makes you wonder where these falsehoods originate from whether manufactured for political purpose or with a social agenda. Even responsible parents tend to unintentionally pressure their kids into over achieving with such phrases as, " do your best or don't do it at all," there are several subtle variations to this adviso. I said something like this to my daughter and oldest child before her first organized soccer game and she got a stomach ache. She went on to be a very talented girls soccer player as left forward.

Despite the best plans of mice and men

She played what's known as "Select" kind of like the best of the best. It wasn't for my glory or pride but being a single parent this activity among her playing in orchestra, ballet, and drill team were all designed to keep her out of the sexual path of lustful young men. It also provided for frequent outings to parks and recreational areas that my 4 kids I raised by myself to the healthy outdoors. Of course, ultimately I failed in that attempt as by high school she just had to keep up with her girl friends all bragging about when they lost their virginity! Proof that despite our best efforts we live in a fallen and evil world, but useless aphorisms are just one more dagger in the back of our personal pursuits in life.

Indeed

This particular phrase showed up in the singles classified columns and in a myriad of women's dating profiles and typifies some of the most irresponsible and self centered messages imaginable. The use of this saying is the epitome of what's wrong between the sexes in relationships when expectations are so self serving that I can think of another often used response, "Why bother?"

Classic line of BS

It goes like this, "If you can't accept me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best!" It's people who ascribe to this kind of greed and refusal to accept personal responsibility for ones actions that is at the very core of relationship failures! If one cares to analyze this statement for what it is really saying and its intentions it would be recognized for what it really means. It may not be obvious to the self centered bi-polar personality, but this faulty aphorism basically dismisses a woman for her abusive actions in order for the man to become worthy of the those few fleeting moments of bliss if there be any bliss at all with a personality such as this.

The flawed followers

As a matter of fact, this particular bromide seems to have formed a feminist movement of self righteously abusive women who feel entitled to the perfect abuse absorbing man while they consider any male who shares a tormented bed with them to be lucky to have heard their insults, put up with their rage, suffered their cruel attacks, and were blessed to have had those elusive and rare moments of equilibrium surrendered to them. It's hard to say which type of physical stereotype is most often spouting this over used phrase whether it be the fat resentful women who deep inside hate men for not being attracted to them physically or if it could be the little sex goddess princesses who have never had the inclination to be personable or respectful because they have gotten by on their looks all their lives. As Don Henley of the Eagles says in a lyrical phrase "Opening doors with just a smile." This is one of many aphorisms we can do without!

Another piece of advice

Though there is some truth to this next aphorism it becomes relatively mute in a world full of liars, adulterers, and Daddy's girls who feel justified in taking what they want no matter what the toll is for those they have victimized. As for a man or woman who suffer their partner's continual indifference not realizing that it is only the symptom of infidelity or the intention of it this is one often used and typically unattainable by most human standards. And, it is, " live and love like you've never been hurt before!" Now isn't this priceless, and do you actually know any woman capable of living and loving like she's never been hurt? Sorry, but no where on planet earth! As a matter of fact, we, as human beings actually write our own eulogies in the realm of love poisoned by the emotional trauma of past broken hearted experiences!

Conclusion?

Among the more unrealistic phrases and aft mentioned false assurances we come across in the struggle of life is the simple two word aphorism that we might strive for but will never attain and if we do it would simply equate to the appropriate equivalent of being a "Welcome door mat". And this would be "Unconditional love!" Another romantic and unrealistic concept though noble but probably never practiced by any human being aside from Jesus Christ. Yet, despite the already slippery terrain of disinformation we are fed on the road of life we are once again presented with the impossible proposition. Where do these aphorisms that insult our intelligence come from?