Whoever thought that living in the most influential country in the world that it would be marred by a social scourge known as divorce? Who would have thought that this rift in the family structure would gnaw at the most fundamental level of western society? Yet, it has, devastated children, leaving adults to question the validity of an institution that has been transformed into disposable relationships. Hollywood popularized divorce and made it a common house hold term by the 1960’s with soap operas playing all day long for housewives to accept as common place. The idea that adultery as acceptable began to ravage the ranks of married couples. What was once taboo had become commonplace.

Your present situation

You’re with a woman you married after your previous divorce or divorces. You do not take marriage as a frivolous adventure either, but previous experience does clue you in to any early warning system that allows you to identify red flags more readily but at the same time some people jump ship prematurely afraid of being blindsided by another failed marriage. But, you’re not like that. You’ll hang in there until things become untenable sadly for you. In the Bible it states that men should love their wives like Jesus loved the church. In one story of the Bible a husband actually went to and entered a brothel to retrieve his wife whom he carried home. This kind of unconditional love most humans would be incapable of as it would become emotionally destructive, but there are men and women who have endured unfaithful spouses.

Hopeless?

Getting back to your present marriage. So you have endured a woman’s unstable emotions and mood swings wanting to give this relationship a chance if there is any. She tends to make a mountain out of a mole hill, in other words a very small matter can turn into a major argument at any time. She often shows you disrespect though you have done nothing to earn it aside from her empty accusations, and this is not because you are oblivious to self-awareness, on the contrary because of her out of control sensitivity you constantly examine your actions in order to make sure you can avoid unnecessary blow ups! Yet, nothing you do seems to help. So you begin to distance yourself from her to avoid these insane arguments. It seems the only way to be able to co-exist. Although the intermittent sex is still good it does not make up for all the needless friction in the relationship.

Eternal finger pointing

I ask the men reading my words here if this does not characterize your relationship or a former marriage in the past? I must admit it is a circumstance I am much too familiar with. Politics and social media do not help either since it has become quite trendy to blame men as brutes who when living alone keep their place like a bear cave with food stains on the wall, or that old feminist adage that all men are good for is making babies and mowing the lawn. Many female comedians jokingly echo these sentiments in their stand up routines, but there is an underlying hostility toward men that has been intentionally evolving on TV talk shows, on political discussions, and even in documentaries always discussing women’s rights, women’s needs, women’s rights to seek independence, women’s achievements, women’s correctly interpreted needs for understanding, and of course the need for a woman to have long long drawn out sessions of foreplay which they blame their hen pecked husbands for not carrying out!  

Fireproof?

Hence, the very crucial need for a man or woman to be able to anticipate problems before they destroy the relationship or before even getting into a toxic long term partnership that will leave deep emotional scars. What are the chances? In previous articles I have written of the almost totally ineffectualness of marriage counselors who with a simple certificate from some obscure college or technical institute are going to teach a couple at odds and suffering to somehow rebuild their ailing relationship when the counselor themselves probably need counseling! In a survey taken of medical care providers who could remain confidential, they were polled on whether or not they had an existing mental condition that could affect their ability to diagnose and treat their patients. In that Reader’s Digest article 23% of medical professionals admitted that their emotional state could have an impact on how they treated their patients! More than 1 in 5 doctors, nurses, or psychiatric professionals! The odds for reconciliation do not look good!

Dangerous choices

What is the answer? Getting on your knees and praying to Jesus? One thing is for sure it does not seem to lie in taking anti-depressants, anti-depressant supplements, mood stabilizers, tranquilizers, or amphetamines such as Ritalin to offset Bi-polar or manic disorders. There is a large national equivalent of a cemetery full of the graves of those who have committed suicide or murdered their spouses out of control on psychotropic drugs! Add to this our men and women in the service coming home from overseas dealing with PTSD and there seems to be an unbeatable machinery poised against a lasting, happy, marriage!

Social engineering

 If the globalist elites had their way we would be living in a completely regulated society like a farm where cattle are weighed, drugged, fed, under controlled conditions, certified, and even artificially inseminated so as not to complicate the control of that society with emotional attachments. A long list of science fiction novels have pointed to that kind of a future with government policies definitely aiming in that direction. The push for mankind to colonize other planets under the assumption that humans will exceed the productivity of planet earth to provide for the growing population feeds the narrative that marriages will be inconvenient when space travel will cause long absences and less human contact. The old finite resources fear mongering!

Future? What future?

Little did I personally know by the time I was in high school that a changing world had already just about doomed my being able to experience a marriage of commitment and relative happiness that I had witnessed from my own parents. Society had been tainted with the revolution of the sixties where freedom was defined as defying rules and the establishment while having multiple sex partners and “Dropping Out” as Doctor Timothy Leary had advocated. Being kids, my brothers and I would have no idea what the ramifications of these social blunders could be. The world is changing, not in a natural sense, but driven by those restless hating factions that want government to crush all that defines freedom of the individual, free choice, belief in a God that takes all precedent of authority from a governing body. We are now experiencing the fruition of these events that are transforming our world into a future where storm clouds are brewing as we already hear the crackle of thunder!