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Permalink Reply by Maria De Wind on February 1, 2013 at 12:37am

1.6M Men Pay Child Support 
For Kids That Aren't 
Theirs (DNA)

From Dr. Charles E. Corry
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"Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable." --President John F. Kennedy   Creating slaves   Today, 30% of DNA paternity tests, nearly one in three, prove that the man involved is not the father of the child in question. Currently more than 300,000 such tests are done each year. Since it is unlikely that these paternity tests were done without an underlying reason, almost certainly involving payment of child support, there are thus over 90,000 men who have been falsely accused of paternity each year.   Maybe if we didn't encourage such behavior by enslaving men to pay for it we wouldn't have so much of it? But courts are notorious for continuing child support even when it has been proven the man named is not the biological father. With few exceptions we can assume that a minimum of 90,000 men a year are being indentured for onerous payments for a period of at least 18 years in the United States. That would suggest that, at a minimum, 1.6 million men are enslaved today by the courts to pay for other men's children (90,000 men per year for 18 years).   The sample size of 300,000+ DNA tests a year suggests that, as an upper limit, 30% of all children are conceived by a man other than the one named by the mother. With ~4 million children now born each year in the United States, 1.2 million men are likely victims of paternity fraud each year.   It can be presumed that by far the great majority of these deceived men are enslaved by the courts and the mother's lies to support these children until at least age 18. Therefore, as many as 21 million men are indentured today, either by marriage or the courts to pay much of their income for children they have no biological ties to.   From the lower limit of 1.6 million men proven to be current victims of paternity fraud to the upper estimate of 21 million, the middle ground of 10 million men presently enslaved by this fraud appears reasonable. For comparison, there were a href="http://members.aol.com/jfepperson/stat.html>3,953,696" target="_blank">http://members.aol.com/jfepperson/stat.html>3,953,696 slaves in the United States were counted in the 1860 census.   Four million slaves in 1860 were the catalyst for a terrible Civil War in which nearly a million men were killed or wounded. Out of that crucible came the lesson enshrined in the Thirteenth Amendment to our Federal Constitution: "Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction."   Colorado, as do most states, has similar language. Unequivocally, Article II, Section 26 of the Colorado Constitution states: "There shall never be in this state either slavery or involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime, whereof the party shall have been duly convicted." I have no wish to quarrel with that stark dictate. But Colorado judges seem to and tens of thousands of men here are indentured or imprisoned to pay for children not theirs.   A case study of attempted reform   The Equal Justice Foundation is hardly the first, and certainly not the last, to attempt peaceful reform of the felony fraud, perjury, and adultery inherent in false paternity cases.   Colorado House of Representatives   To his great credit, Colorado Rep. Bill Sinclair, a veteran of three wars and serving his last session in the legislature, introduced a bill in 2004 to allow, but not require, men to stop child support payments when DNA testing showed they were not the father of children they were indentured to support. A simple matter of justice and constitutional law you might naively think. But you'd be wrong because you have crassly ignored what the courts and legislators regard as the "best interests of the child."   Now there may be some small fraction of cuckolded men who can maintain a loving relationship with children proven to have been sired by some other man but we don't hear from them. We do hear from many men who have been driven away from what they presumed were their children by vindictive and vengeful women using restraining orders, arrests, and moving away with the children, to say nothing of the irrational acts of family courts.   40% of the hundreds of married men who contact the Equal Justice Foundation for help do so after they find evidence their wives are having an affair. These men are falsely charged with domestic violence or abuse, and suffer the crushing weight of being driven from their homes and children by restraining orders that are handed out by judges like candy. As a result of these all-too-frequently false allegations, women are given the house, the kids, the car, the bank account, very generous child support, and sometimes alimony (maintenance) as a reward for their adultery. And when DNA paternity tests prove he isn't the father, the child support doesn't stop.   Presumably Colorado gives men five years after a child is born to challenge paternity. But commonly the blowup comes when the children are older than five years and up to that point the man, perhaps naively, had faith and trust in his wife.   We also hear of many cases, as did Rep. Sinclair, where the man had no idea a child even existed until a child support collection agency began garnishing their wages, sometimes even after the child is grown. A 1996 federal welfare law requires a woman to name a father - no questions asked - when she applies for public assistance, ofttimes many years after her child is born. A paternity notice is often then simply mailed to the man's last known address. For a variety of reasons men often don't get the notice, particularly if they are with our Armed Forces. A default judgement of paternity is then entered.   Commonly we hear the men have never seen the child and knew the mother only briefly, if at all. Almost certainly her child doesn't know the man paying child support. And if you believe the courts or child support collection agencies will stop these support payments simply because DNA paternity tests prove the child isn't his I'd like to make you a wonderful and generous offer on a bridge we own.   Despite the clear injustices, and the unambiguous constitutional mandates, it was a minor miracle that Rep. Sinclair's reform bill made it out of committee. More remarkably, the bill passed the Colorado House by a single vote. However, the House heavily amended the bill to yet again leave discretion in the hands of judges to continue the child support, i.e. continue to enslave the man, if they found it was in the "best interests of the child," despite proven paternity fraud.   Colorado Senate Judiciary committee   a href="http://www.lectlaw.com/def2/u002.htm>The" target="_blank">http://www.lectlaw.com/def2/u002.htm>The 'Lectric Law Library's Lexicon On * Under Color Of State Law * To act "under color of state law" means to act beyond the bounds of lawful authority, but in such a manner that the unlawful acts were done while the official was purporting or pretending to act in the performance of his official duties. In other words, the unlawful acts must consist of an abuse or misuse of power which is possessed by the official only because he is an official.   Having passed the House, in due course Rep. Sinclair's bill was introduced into the Senate and assigned to the judiciary committee. The Senate sponsor was Sen. Ed Jones.   The Senate judiciary committee met the afternoon of March 29, 2004. The defeat of the bill in that hearing is instructive for the many individuals who contact the Equal Justice Foundation insisting the laws must be changed and the courts reformed, the Constitution must be obeyed, and why wasn't that done yesterday.   The strongest proponent of the bill on the judiciary committee was the chairman, Sen. Jim Dyer, who moved that the bill be returned to its original form as introduced by Rep. Sinclair. Sen. Dyer also noted that the bill wasn't about children, gender, and was a simple matter of justice. He strongly urged support of this reform.   The wisdom of the chairman was not reflected in the other members of the committee.   An overarching message from the committee was that a man should never trust his wife about the paternity of her children. It was implied that a man would be especially stupid to wait the full five years allowed under current law to have a DNA paternity test run, at a cost of several hundred dollars we might add. The most vocal proponent of that position was Sen. Norma Anderson, who put forth the position that husbands should check the blood tests run at the time the baby is born to be sure those weak tests at least suggested he was the father. Sen. Anderson seemed unaware that might be difficult to accomplish if the man was in the military and overseas, or he hadn't even been told about the child.   But the committee's position that a man should not trust his wife with regard to paternity certainly further erodes the marriage contract, a contract legislatures have been working so hard to destroy over the past twenty or so years. So at least their position was consistent.   Sen. Sue Windels spoke of the "best interests of the child" and how stopping child support would destroy the father/child relationship. I don't know what planet the senator is living on but, when a DNA test shows the man isn't the father: (a) a divorce has already occurred or he wouldn't be paying child support; (b) there is an excellent chance the mother has a restraining order against him or; (c) has moved the kids a thousand miles away. Thus, there isn't any "father"/child relationship left, if there ever was one.   Sen. Jim Gordon argued strongly that it was essential to leave in language that left it to the discretion of the black-robed monsters who all too frequently sit on the family court benches as to whether it was in the man's best interest to stop the child support, or nonsense to that effect. I disagree strongly with Sen. Gordon. I do not believe it should be in the power of any man or woman to enslave another, whether they wear a black robe or not. But in the end Sen. Gordon voted against the bill even with amendments intact.   Sen. John Evans said that even though the child support might continue the man could sue the mother for fraud in these cases. Therefore there was no need for Rep. Sinclair's bill. Now stop laughing and pay attention. Apparently there are a couple of cases in Colorado history where this has happened and the man won. That probably was circa 1900. However, there is no evidence the men were able to collect the money they were awarded. But even in the remote instance where a man might win the fraud suit, he would still be left paying the child support under color of current law. Am I the only one who sees a problem here Sen. Evans?   Punishing men for their wife's adultery   Roughly 12% of men who refuse to pay child support do so because they are not the father. Yet when a man doesn't pay support for a child that he has proven is not his progeny, under current law and practice, Colorado labels him a "Deadbeat Dad," takes his drivers and other professional licenses away (making it almost impossible for him to work), and then throws him in jail for contempt of court. That often occurs without a hearing and certainly without a jury trial. A man can get out of prison for murder based on DNA evidence but can't get out of child support payments or jail based on the same conclusive evidence.   Colorado, like many states, is undergoing a budget crisis. But it appears it is cheaper to take an uppity, rebellious slave and throw him in jail for not supporting another man's child, than to offer him justice and freedom. To say nothing of the taxes a free man might pay to support a just state. So we continue to build jails to hold slaves rather than uphold clear Constitutional dictates.   Four million slaves sparked our last Civil War. A conservative estimate shows there are now 10 million men indentured by paternity fraud under draconian court orders from which they cannot escape. Demonstrably, these men have committed no crime of which they were duly convicted.   We argue for peaceful resolution of these injustices but the tides of history may overtake our efforts. As we began this newsletter, we remind legislators, government executives, and judges that: "Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable."     Charles E. Corry, Ph.D., F.G.S.A. President, Equal Justice Foundation http://www.ejfi.org/ 455 Bear Creek Road Colorado Springs, Colorado 80906-5820 Telephone: (719) 520-1089 Domestic violence against men in Colorado: http://www.dvmen.org Personal home page: http://corry.ws Curriculum vitae: http://www.marquiswhoswho.net/charleselmocorry/Default.aspx   "The good men may do separately is small compared with what they may do collectively." --Benjamin Franklin Source and More...

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Permalink Reply by Marek Moszczynski on February 1, 2013 at 3:56am

I've had a friend that I worked with who underwent horrors of family court.  Divorce court went about his case by a template above.  Children involved were his children and he got them back after couple years, but family court didn't stop garnishing his child support money from his paycheck for a long time after children already were in his custody.  I bet family court was doing this "in the interest of children".

I was fortunate that after seeing divorce and custody horrors of few of my friends I insisted to not loose communication with my X-to be and personally negotiated mutual agreement, so the divorce cost us $150.00, and our property didn't go to lawyers.  Since we decided that I will have custody of our child, I kept a house.  Divorce is always devastating financially, but we managed to save what we have together with our child in mind instead loosing it in court fights.

 I have to admit that a reason that it all went this fortunate way is only that thanks to a very ethical lady lawyer from Farmington, MI.  She charged me $200 for one hour consultation.  During that time she told me how scenario of family courts in Michigan looks like.  She also told me that she is good in her trade and she will win custody case for me, but she will destroy my opponent (ex-wife) to the point that she will never talk to me and in a future my daughter will hate me for it.  It would cost me a house and probably a sizable debt.   She advised me that if I want to have a relationship with my daughter than I shouldn't do it.  She advised me to humble myself and with my ex-wife  peacefully solve our relationship and custody problem if we care for our kid.  I honestly told my ex all I heard during consultation and eventually we resolved our situation without lawyers, costs and horrors.

Today I know that while infidelity is a sign of insecurity and immaturity regardless of age, divorces in court battles are just prove of this.  Unfortunately system is geared for plunder on already hurting victims.  Those battles leave ruin in at least one victim lasting for decades and emotional injuries beyond repair.  There is also a deep sense of injustice and disillusion about our court system.  It takes only one predatory lawyer ill advising vulnerable client to destroy a family. After all battle dust settles kids still need parents even after they don't live together anymore.

We use lawyers because we've been conditioned not to solve problems but to run away from them.  Everybody has glitches in life but instead analyzing them and fixing people tend to look for some instant gratification.  So there are infidelities, excesses in gambling, eating, shopping ... Isn't this what media is constantly pushing on us?  - but this is another can of worms.

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Permalink Reply by Unemployed Storm trooper TK420 on February 1, 2013 at 6:36pm

I think that Marriage is something of the pass, so having one single man and woman relationship ....Love is almost dead...most people just want to have sex, but not love.   I think that in the future only gay people will be the ones getting marry....I also think that most people will avoid having kids or will not be able to have them because of infertility.... I move about a year ago to the island of Puerto Rico...this beautiful island have become one of the most hostile and violent places in the world with an average of a 1000 Murders or more a year....statics down here show that 1 in 3 women have been sexually abuse as a child or during her youth years...63 out of a 100 kids, come from parents that never been marry..of those , about 45 out of 63 don't know their father or mother or both...this island have become a bastard society ..mix that with a corrupted and very mediocre government, and add to that the poverty, 1 out of two Portorricans don't work or can't find a job...and add to that also the drugs problem....and there you have it...a violent society of bastards people murdering each other for whatever reason...the other day one guy kill another one with a gun for some basketball play ...that's how fuck up things are around here ! sad but true !

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Permalink Reply by Maria De Wind on February 2, 2013 at 2:39am

High fidelity—or hi-fi or hifi —reproduction is a term used by home stereo listeners and home audio enthusiasts (audiophiles) to refer to high-quality reproduction of sound .... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High_fidelity

Couples should commit to Loyalty to each other

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Permalink Reply by Dan Hudson on February 2, 2013 at 2:56am

its a whore-ish world we live in

sad thing is, if you really connect with your mate, its not hard to be faithful

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